What is cheating? There are many definitions of cheating.
Dictionary.com states cheating is:
Urban Dictionary states cheating as:
“When one person has a significant other and performs any type of intimate acts with another person.”
“Someone who is in a committed relationship and breaks the trust of his or her partner by getting physically or emotionally involved with another person. Common forms of cheating include kissing, feeling each other up, vaginal, annal, oral sex and any other contact that involves the lips, hands, and genitals. Emotional cheating invovles forming a close bond with someone of your preferred gender and basically forming a second relationship. This may or may not include physical cheating.”
Cheating can be anything from cheating on a test, cheating the law, or cheating on a relationship. So when does a new relationship become cheating if you just started seeing them regularly? When your in that in between stage of just started seeing each other and fully committed relationship with the “I love you’s” and all? Does there even have to be a committed relationship before you say I love you? What if someone is more invested in the relationship and think that the relationship is further then the other person?
That’s something that’s a constant struggle. Especially when you are talking to multiple people you have some feelings for. Some people don’t feel the same as you do and yet you continue to pursue them thinking that if you give it a little more time they might come around. While it may be the opposite for other relationships. They keep pursuing you and you keep thinking that there has to be something better to come around.
There has to come to a point in a relationship where there is that unwritten rule in the sand that states you need to stop pursuing other potential suitors and stick with the one you have been casually seeing. Then you have that voice in your head that states, “Well what if I chose the wrong person? What if I just ended it with the person I really wanted? What if I get stuck in this relationship?”
At some point you have to make the jump and decide to go all in, even if in the end it is a mistake. Although the let down is pretty horrible, it doesn’t mean there isn’t someone out there for you…At least I keep telling myself that. If it’s actually true, I honestly don’t know, but I hope it is.