Everybody has them it’s just how you deal with them. There are those family members that want the attention of everyone and will do anything possible to get that attention. Then you have those who secretly hate almost everyone in their family and are secretly plotting their demise, which they will never follow through with…Then you have those who feed into the people in the first category. Which one are you?
Me you ask? Let me tell you… When I was younger I wanted to be the center of attention with all eyes on me. I used to put on ‘plays’ for the family at holidays and wanted all conversations centered around me, but then again I was a kid. Now, I’m the one in the second category. The silent killer who just sits back. There are so many things I want to say to each family member but most of them are all vying for the center of attention from everyone else. I get that for children wanting that but grown adults acting like they can’t do anything and the world is out to get them?
Yeah some days I feel like that and wish I could just hide away from it all but I’m not going to go around to all listening ears saying, “Oh my word! Do you know what so and so did to me today?!?” or “Oh I can’t bend down today, my body hurts so bad from working out yesterday, Oh and I also can’t pick up a pen…” I have friends and people in my life that are close to or on their deathbed and are they complaining? Not as much as the people who are healthy! It’s ridiculous how our society has shaped people.
How is this any different though from a girl constantly thinking about a guy who she went out with the day prior, and thinks it went well mind you, but he won’t return her text messages or whatever social media she’s on. Same goes for the guy thinking the same about the girl. In this age of technology people think that everyone should be available at all hours of the day, whether it be by text, Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram or whatever media you contact the person. Yet no one knows how to pick up a phone and call the person. Yes I will admit I am apart of this generation and I have this issue sometimes but if I really wanted to talk to someone and they weren’t getting back to me I would pick up my phone and call them… It’s not that hard… Young people just don’t know how to talk on the phone anymore.
We are so dependent on people. We are afraid of being alone or ending up alone yet we won’t put in the effort or time to make relationships last. To people its about the ‘here and now’ not the long term. We hurt people thinking that they will be lonely and will come back but what happens when they don’t? What happens when they wise up and move on? What then? You can’t use them anymore and you have broken another relationship, whether it be with family or friends. Will you go to the next person and do the same thing or will your behavior change? 9 times out of 10 it will probably stay the same. Then people wonder why they don’t have any friends and why they are lonely. It’s a vicious cycle.